The difference between being introverted and being hurtful

Having just gotten my first article published on Thought Catalog, 10 people who annoy introverts to no end, I was overwhelmed with the good and bad feedback from my article. Many people mistakenly accused me of being a misanthrope (someone who hates humanity, basically) when that isn’t the case. Surprisingly enough, I love life and the people in my life and am overwhelmed with how beautiful life is everyday. Although at times I do get annoyed with overly-extroverted people, I in no way wish harm upon them and do not hate them at all, actually. The article was intended to be funny, as in real life people will tell you that I most of my sentences are filled to the brim with sarcasm. Have you ever walked up to a friend said: I hate you so much right now and not meant it at all? That’s what the intended tone was. The issue wasn’t so much that people thought that I was being entirely serious, the issue was how mean people can actually be over the internet. This having been my first major post on a major blog, I wasn’t entirely prepared for the hate and negative feedback. Although I do appreciate any feedback at all, the name-calling and judgements just astounded me. I may be introverted, but I am, in no way whatsoever, hurtful or mean to people. I have never in my life sat on the internet and posted on blogs and social media how much of a bitch someone is. This got me to thinking about cyber-bullying in general and about how people don’t actually realize how their written words can effect people. What I posted had nothing to do with any specific person. It was fictional, only based on a collection of experiences over time with people I don’t know and over-exaggerated at that. How people can take such offense to something that has nothing to do with them, I have no idea. I can only come to the conclusion that they enjoy sitting around on the internet talking shit about people because they are having issues in their life outside of the internet. Thus, I pass no judgement. My life will not change in any way and they can continue to bash people on the internet and call them names for whatever reason. The problem lies in the time when they make a comment on someone’s page that is already dealing with depression. It only takes one comment or one name for that person’s day to be completely ruined. It only takes one person to call them a name they already believe they are for them to lose all of their self-esteem. It takes one time. People think they’re invincible when they’re sitting behind a computer screen and I don’t blame them. As someone who works on a computer basically all day as my full-time job, I get it. E-mails are easier to type than phone calls are to make. A comment on a friend’s Facebook page is easier to create than face-to-face convo is. For some reason, people seem to think that if they use a keyboard to say it instead of their mouth, it takes away the comment’s power of hurting someone, or that it takes the edge off of it. Not the case. My younger brother has been dealing with severe cyber-bullying the past two years in middle school and now high school. The prank phone calls, the texts, the Facebook messages…it breaks my heart every damn day. So when I see someone post that I am a c**t for posting a humorous article about being an introvert? It makes me wonder, damn…how much worse does it get? How much meaner can people be on the internet? And then I answer my own question, a lot. Think about what you’re saying before you hit send. Because you may not be so lucky as to get someone so care-free on the other end of that comment. Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will too. Oh and for good measure, here’s some pictures of me enjoying life and totally not being a bitter bitch. Enjoy 1901198_10151917897981787_209746528_n-2 1098327_10151906906831787_1262084353_n 458341_10150872132366787_130531080_o IMG_1376 IMG_3768 IMG_3777 For more interesting thoughts and dog pics, follow me on instagram or twitter @juliecathlyn tumblr_m5jaihXttX1qmhal2o1_400

“I walk around the school hallways and look at the people. I look at the teachers and wonder why they’re here. If they like their jobs. Or us. And I wonder how smart they were when they were fifteen. Not in a mean way. In a curious way. It’s like looking at all the students and wondering who’s had their heart broken that day, and how they are able to cope with having three quizzes and a book report due on top of that. Or wondering who did the heart breaking. And wondering why.”-Perks of being a wallflower


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